To Fairy or Not to Fairy

Lil’ C, who in my opinion is MUCH too young to be losing baby teeth {4 years 5 months}, lost her first baby tooth today. My heart dropped a couple of months ago when the dental hygienist said she had two wiggly teeth. My baby, growing up, and this is one of the major physical milestones. I couldn’t believe it.


Lil C Lost Tooth


Even though Miss A has lost several teeth hers didn’t come out quite so soon. Then again do we ever really feel comfortable with our kids growing up?!?

For the first lost tooth in our house we celebrate, the Tooth Fairy brings a small gift instead of money, because it’s a big deal you know?!


The big questions is: To Fairy or not to Fairy.

To Fairy or Not to Fairy - Teaching your child about holidays


While Miss A knew the Tooth Fairy wasn’t real we haven’t told Lil’ C about her true identity yet mostly because we didn’t realize she would lose a tooth this soon, plus we want to make sure she can keep that secret from other kiddos whose parents want them to believe.


We have several friends on both sides of the fairy fence. Some friends get really creative, some do not celebrate at all, some celebrate but in a unique way, and then some fall in the middle like we do with playing make-believe but the kids know in the end it’s us helping them celebrate in what we feel a fun way.

If you haven’t decided how you want to approach this with your kiddos, here’s our point of view only and be sure to take all into consideration.

We often play make believe and dress up in our home, and by often I mean on a 20-minute cycle, these girls ADORE dress up! So when deciding if we wanted to do the tooth fairy it really fell into that category.

When it comes to other holidays  like Christmas, we tell the girls about how Saint Nick was a real man and we focus on that story of the spirit of giving. At Christmas they get a few meaningful gifts from us, but we ultimately celebrate Christmas as Jesus’ Birthday, same with Easter, we don’t do Easter baskets or bunny, but we do have a few fun faith-based activities coming next Spring to celebrate and honor what Easter means for us.

When do the girls REALLY get to celebrate??? Lots of times, including missing teeth, we celebrate them on their birthdays’ that’s totally their day, we also celebrate milestones like first day/last days of school, and have impromptu glow stick parties and dates with our kiddos, trust me, these girls {and their parents} know how to make some awesome memories.

So if you ever feel that telling your kiddos the truth about the Tooth Fairy and other holidays will spoil the fun for them, it really doesn’t have to. And if you don’t tell your kiddos that’s fine too. There are so many great ways to celebrate special occasions and the day-to-day as well.  Let’s make our family time together the best it can be!!


Consider sharing how you and your family celebrate to give other new families, or families trying to decide their traditions ideas.


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  • Love this post!! I do the same as you. We treat the tooth fairy as make believe and I write a letter and sign it, “from the tooth fairy (your mommy).” My daughter loves it!

  • Sweet girl also “lost” errr had her first tooth pulled earlier than I planned on playing the Tooth Fairy. To the point, the Tooth Fairy forgot to come the first night. Oops. But we did and plan on it as long as possible. Those are some of my great memories as a child and I’m glad I can do the same with my sweet girl! 🙂

  • Can I say I’m just impressed with how thoughtful you are about it. I think a lot of people just follow along ‘traditions’ without really discussing with spouse etc…

    You know we love the silly and the playful over here…
    For us we are all-embracing of the Santa thing and the Tooth Fairy but MUCH LESSER the Easter Bunny, and it all ends around 8-10 depending on the kid and with each kid Dad took them out for a hot cocoa evening and had ‘the talk’… for the older ones that meant they were ‘in on it’ to help with the younger ones for a few years… and they loved it, BUT!!
    this year will be the first that all the kids are ‘in on it’… so we’re about to start a bunch of fun new traditions where THEY are the ones who help thoughtfully ‘fill’ each other’s stockings on Christmas Eve for example but also.. during the Christmas season I will expect them to all step it up and be Christ-like especially to their siblings ya know? We downplay the gifts and stuff at Easter anyway so that won’t change; we focus on the blessings of the atonement year round and on Easter we make it a special time to really focus and talk about Christ in our life.

  • I try to keep the tooth fairy, Santa, the Easter Bunny, etc alive, as much for other people’s children as my own. I don’t want my kid to be the one that ruins it for someone else. Besides, it’s just a fun, magical thing and they will grow up soon enough. It’s a little way to keep them *little* for as long as I can.

  • I definitely enjoy putting my own twist these things. There’s wrong with straying from the cultural norms. My kids don’t enjoy Christmas any less because we don’t celebrate Santa as being real. There are too many ways to creative and make special moments & holidays unique for your family in accordance to your lifestyle.

  • We haven’t gotten to the tooth fairy yet, but we will likely do it for a bit at least. I have memories of the tooth fairy growing up (same with Santa & the Easter bunny) so we do those as well, but we do emphasize on the bible, Jesus, & center everything around that. Like Jamie said, it’s fun & magical for them! & we believed in it all growing up (me & mr husband) so we enjoy seeing the kiddos faces!

  • We’re probably one of the oddballs because we never got ourselves involved in the tooth fairy mania – my daughter is totally aware of its identity – but we are happy to go through the process without its help and it was just fine.

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