Momnesia Mondays

Momnesia MondaysWelcome to today’s Momnesia Mondays, in case you didn’t read my first post check it out here:  http://www.mommybknowsbest.com/momnesia-mondays/ basically each Monday I’ll be writing a post on my Momnesia, in hopes that maybe I can feature your Momnesia moments as well! Momnesia means that time in our lives when we say we’ll always or never do something and because we’re parents and go through different experiences our opinions change. In my personal opinion having Momnesia is good, it means there’s growth and acceptance going on.

The topic this week is…..drum roll please……the ever controversial…..Pacifiers. Whether you call them binkies, pacis, nuks, bobbies, plugs or another pet name these little suckie toys can cause an uproar. B.C. (before children), I babysat a child that had a pacifier even at age 5 and to me that was ridiculous. Making my own conclusion I decided that it would be okay for a child to use a pacifier until around age 1 or so. My mom and other mothers disagree with me completely and totally avoid the pacifier all-together and there are moms who think it’s best to use a pacifier until the child themselves get rid of it.

Baby A Paci

*Remember this post is solely my opinion, I will not look up or state facts, but I’d love to hear your opinions in the comments as well.*

When I had Miss A she was totally a paci-baby. I decided that it would be harder to break her from sucking her thumb than it would be to break her from using a pacifier, you just can’t take a thumb away. Needless to say her paci became a huge “security blanket” for her. But we did have rules about paci, once she got to a year she was not allowed to talk with the paci in her mouth, (for fear that it would impede her speech). After she turned a year we decided that she was only to use the paci when she was sick, during and after shots (for comfort) and while sleeping. We got into the habit of making her leave the pacifier in her crib so it wasn’t even an issue.

MomnesiaSo obviously my 1 year paci age limit had went out the door, I still felt like she was a little baby, plus it helped her fall asleep. I’d rather have paci and sleep than no paci and a child awake at 4:00 am personally.

At about 15-18 months some doctors say this is the age when children build strong attachments to objects, so my plan was to take the pacifier away at 18 months, but Miss A just wasn’t ready and neither were we. She got a few colds durin

Miss A picks Kitty

g the winter and I felt like she was constantly teething and the pacifier provided relief to her so we kept it.

MomnesiaI kept setting different goals, we’ll get rid of paci when she turns 2 on her birthday, that day passed too. I don’t know if she would have been ready but we certainly weren’t and after a while we decided that for our family there were other things we’d rather get rid of first, so we concentrated on potty training first. Since Baby C was on her way in the spring we put Miss A into her big girl bed and decided that we would say, “Goodbye” to paci then. And at 2.5 she was ready and so were we. During a fun Build-a-Bear party we put paci inside Hello Kitty. Just a few tears throughout the day but Miss A turned into a big girl and was paci-free.

My personal opinion after countless Momnesia Moments….kids aren’t going to go to college with the pacifier so as long as it’s not ruining their teeth (usually at and after age 3) or speech, and they’re not in elementary school the world will keep turning. But again, as I always recommend, do what’s best for your family.

We love to hear your comments on MommyB Knows Best! What’s your honest opinion on pacifiers??

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  • My 4 babies have all either refused a paci or never even needed to try one. Nursing on demand seems to cut down on the need for one. I am extremely glad my kids never took them, though, because I never had to break them from it. To me (and I don’t know that I’m 100% correct here) a paci is a bad habit. Sucking a thumb is also a bad habit. I’m not sure it’s a great idea to give children bad habits just because it keeps them quiet. Your mileage may vary, of course. I’d never condemn another mother for using a binky, because I haven’t had her kid! I don’t know how things work for other people.

    • Great thoughts Cindy, thanks for sharing, I love comments! For me, even though I nurse on demand as well, it seems that both my girls needed a little extra sucking. And although most pediatricians say babies know when they’re full Miss A would often overeat because she just wanted to suck longer in turn causing her to spit up all the time. While I’m not saying the pacifier is a good idea for all families, because again I’ve seen them used for several years in other families, it seems as though my girls really needed them. We’ll see when we get rid of Colbie’s but it will be a while. It’s funny how every kid, even in the same family can be so different huh?

  • My daughter had one until she was about a year, then it was lost and i never replaced it, my son on the other hand, chucked the pacifier at 3 months, and didn’t want anything to do with it. he chose his thumb instead, and with that i took the doctors word for it that he’d grow out of that eventually, at 3 it slowed down, and at 4 he only did it at night. now he has nothing to do with it at all.

  • love them! They will not go to college with one in their mouth. It helps them feel secure at night in their crib, keeps them sucking to help prevent SIDS (read this somewhere). We did the same with Ella-only at naps and bedtime-but then it turned into an all day thing. She is 18 months now and we are going to start weaning her back to only at night and naptime.

  • I have 2 children and it appears that neither one will take a pacifier. I use to be under the same frame of thought that most mommies are and that is to not give your child a pacifier; however, after having baby number 2, I wish he would take a pacifier. I nurse on demand and I know that he not only nurses to eat, but also for comfort, which is like using me as a pacifier. It wouldn’t be a problem if it was just he and I and I didn’t have to cook, clean, comb hair, get his sister off to pre-school, or take a shower. It would be nice to be able to give him a pacifier to comfort him and give me the opportunity to get some things done. I envy mommies who can give their children pacifiers, but I don’t envy the weaning part.

  • I didn’t initially have any intention of using a pacifier with my son, and he had no interest in one anyway so we didn’t push it. However, after 2+ months of colic and crying/screaming for more than 8 hours a day, I was desperate to use anything that would provide my child some comfort and relief. I nursed on demand but it wasn’t enough, unfortunately. The day before I brought my son to the US for the first time, I tried a pacifier once more and he took it. I don’t think I would’ve survived the 9 hour flight without it! We’re pretty relaxed about the whole pacifier issue: if he wants it right now, he can have it. He has mostly given up its use during the day (unless he is sick or upset) and generally uses it only at night. We were told by our (Swedish) nurse that he can continue to use it without any harm to his teeth until about age 3. So for now we just make it less and less accessible throughout the day and my son generally doesn’t seem to notice, but we certainly don’t keep it from him if he wants it.

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