Welcome to today’s Momnesia Mondays, in case you didn’t read my first post check it out here: http://www.mommybknowsbest.com/momnesia-mondays/ basically each Monday I’ll be writing a post on my Momnesia, in hopes that maybe I can feature your Momnesia moments as well! Momnesia means that time in our lives when we say we’ll always or never do something and because we’re parents and go through different experiences our opinions change. In my personal opinion having Momnesia is good, it means there’s growth and acceptance going on.
The topic this week is…..drum roll please……the ever controversial…..Pacifiers. Whether you call them binkies, pacis, nuks, bobbies, plugs or another pet name these little suckie toys can cause an uproar. B.C. (before children), I babysat a child that had a pacifier even at age 5 and to me that was ridiculous. Making my own conclusion I decided that it would be okay for a child to use a pacifier until around age 1 or so. My mom and other mothers disagree with me completely and totally avoid the pacifier all-together and there are moms who think it’s best to use a pacifier until the child themselves get rid of it.
*Remember this post is solely my opinion, I will not look up or state facts, but I’d love to hear your opinions in the comments as well.*
When I had Miss A she was totally a paci-baby. I decided that it would be harder to break her from sucking her thumb than it would be to break her from using a pacifier, you just can’t take a thumb away. Needless to say her paci became a huge “security blanket” for her. But we did have rules about paci, once she got to a year she was not allowed to talk with the paci in her mouth, (for fear that it would impede her speech). After she turned a year we decided that she was only to use the paci when she was sick, during and after shots (for comfort) and while sleeping. We got into the habit of making her leave the pacifier in her crib so it wasn’t even an issue.
So obviously my 1 year paci age limit had went out the door, I still felt like she was a little baby, plus it helped her fall asleep. I’d rather have paci and sleep than no paci and a child awake at 4:00 am personally.
At about 15-18 months some doctors say this is the age when children build strong attachments to objects, so my plan was to take the pacifier away at 18 months, but Miss A just wasn’t ready and neither were we. She got a few colds durin
g the winter and I felt like she was constantly teething and the pacifier provided relief to her so we kept it.
I kept setting different goals, we’ll get rid of paci when she turns 2 on her birthday, that day passed too. I don’t know if she would have been ready but we certainly weren’t and after a while we decided that for our family there were other things we’d rather get rid of first, so we concentrated on potty training first. Since Baby C was on her way in the spring we put Miss A into her big girl bed and decided that we would say, “Goodbye” to paci then. And at 2.5 she was ready and so were we. During a fun Build-a-Bear party we put paci inside Hello Kitty. Just a few tears throughout the day but Miss A turned into a big girl and was paci-free.
My personal opinion after countless Momnesia Moments….kids aren’t going to go to college with the pacifier so as long as it’s not ruining their teeth (usually at and after age 3) or speech, and they’re not in elementary school the world will keep turning. But again, as I always recommend, do what’s best for your family.
We love to hear your comments on MommyB Knows Best! What’s your honest opinion on pacifiers??