With Baby C on the way at the end of March we’ve been telling Little Miss A lots about what to expect; the baby’s going to cry a lot, she won’t be able to do a lot of big girl things like you, she’ll sleep in mommy and daddy’s room when she comes home…and so on.
I feel it’s really important to prepare her as much as possible now and since she’s almost 3 she really understands a lot of it.
She’s been taking good care of her dollies, bottle feeding them, burping them, and of course diapering them.
Since I’m having a c-section I also told her that I would have a “boo-boo” on my tummy so when I came home from the hospital she’d need to be extra careful and that I couldn’t play with her like normal right away. Speaking of hospital, unfortunately in North Carolina (and perhaps other states, I haven’t really researched because it wouldn’t matter for me anyway,) there is a ban on all visitors under the age of 18 due to the H1N1 outbreaks. This could mean, and probably will mean that Little Miss A will not be able to visit me in the hospital. Once again, since I’m having a c-section that means at the very least I’ll be in the hospital for 2 days, away from her. Of course it makes me super sad, being that I’ve only left her overnight once and she was with DaddyB.
So trying to be the pro-active mommy that I love to be I started thinking of things I could do to help her prepare even more, especially with me being in the hospital. Here’s a list of a few fun things to do with your kiddo(s) whether or not you’ll be away from them to get them excited about the new arrival.
Make a paper chain- I love these paper chains! You can use them to decorate anything and also they’re great for countdowns. I decided that I’d cut some strips of pink and purple construction paper, about an inch/inch and a half thick and Little Miss A could decorate them with stickers and markers. She was more excited that I thought she’d be, and the best part is she can count down to the day Baby C will come home from the hospital (so long as my darling husband and family members remember to do this with her while I’m in the hospital, hint hint.) You can also buy some paper chain kits, but I figure why waste the money, and home-made is so much better in this case.
Make a Video- We also plan on making a video or video chatting as a way for Little Miss A to be able to meet her little sister, in case the hospital regulations don’t lift before Baby C is born. I don’t want Miss A to think that I’ve gone and left her and now all of a sudden I show up at home with a new baby, the end. She loves video chatting with her grandmom and papa so I know she’d love the video as well.
Siblings, depending on their age, can also help you decorate baby’s room, pick out clothes or stuffed animals, talk to the baby, and kiss your belly. Really, everything depends on your child, try to pick something they love, music -make a song up about them and the baby, art- have them draw a picture for the nursery door, so many options! This will help big brother/sister bond with baby before they even arrive and feel like they’re a part of the process.
Do you have any great tips for me or other expecting parents out there to help their child feel included???