A month after I had Little Miss A, Daddy B got a job in Charlotte, North Carolina and we moved into an apartment until we closed on our house a month later. So aside from a very stressful, last-minute move, I was also a brand new mom and didn’t have a support system here at all.
After a couple of months I started finding some great moms groups and began to “reinvent myself.” I didn’t want to be just a mom, but I knew I would never be my pre-mommy self again either. Having moms around me saved my life! I do not know where I would be to this day without great mom groups.
Having had the great support from other moms this time around, with the birth of Baby C, I think it’s helped me even more. I have had some wonderful mom friends, some of whom I’ve never even met, give food, cards, call, and just supporting me through words and kindness. I am beyond blessed by my mom’s groups.
I highly suggest any mom or especially mom-to-be to seek out a moms group, even if you have friends that are moms. I know some people may think it’s weird to join a mom’s group if you’re not a mom yet, but if you’re expecting it is such an amazing help to have people routing for you and maybe even get some pregnancy and labor/delivery advice.
Here are a few resources to finding mom groups in your area. Each region varies.
Meetup.com a general meeting place for any groups, but depending on your area there may be few or many choices. I would tend to lean towards parent groups that allow no membership fee or one with a trial membership to make sure that the events fit your style, child’s age, and location.
The Mommies Network, I belong to Charlotte Mommies, but there are a number of Mommies groups in each state. The thing I love about the Mommies Network is their discussion board, I typically chat with other moms about pregnancy, babies and toddlers, plus there is a great section if you want to promote your business, find help, or even buy or sell items.
I don’t belong to these groups but, I stumbled across the MOMS (Moms Offering Moms Support) Club, it looks a lot like The Mommies Network from what I can read. There is also the more well known MOPS (Mothers of Preschoolers) that meet in a church but encourage any and all mommas and kids to join.
Although sometimes it’s hard to introduce ourselves to new people you’ll already have something in common with these women….you’re mothers! Try attending a play date at a park or public location before you attend something at a persons home, or if you want to get to know the parents before taking your child out, see if the group has mom’s nights out.
I strongly recommend if you don’t have a support system in place, get one, it helps me be a better mom, have great socialization for my children and myself, and I’ve made some pretty wonderful, lifelong friends because of my moms groups.
Do you have any mom/parenting groups you’d like to share?