Category - Wellness

Exploring Love Languages – Words of Affirmation

 

“Words can build you up,
Words can break you down,
Start a fire in your heart or
Put it out.”

 

These are some of the lyrics of the song Words by Hawk Nelson. This has been true since the beginning of the spoken word, even as children we proclaimed in a sing-songy voice “sticks and stones may break my bones but words will never hurt me”. We sang this not because it was true, but as a chant to ward off the pain that some harsh words can bring.

Though everyone is impacted in some way by words, there are some of us that give words great value. This means that discouraging or hurtful words feel even more sharp, and words of praise and encouragement mean the world to us. If it isn’t obvious by the way I’m describing this Love Language, Words of Affirmation is the number one way I feel loved.

 

 

Welcome to another installment of the Exploring Love Languages series on MommyB Knows Best. If you still haven’t read the  or taken your 5 Love Languages test (or test your family/friends) I strongly encourage you to check it out Exploring Love Languages and How to Show Them post.

If you know your love language(s) that will help you understand how you most like to be loved and also be a good determining factor in how you typically show love. Showing love to others is great no matter what way you choose to show it but in some instances love is received best using the love language of those we pour our love into. If we really care, I believe it’s important to get to know not only their personality but their love language as well.

Let’s dive into yet another love language and learn together. Each love language is so unique and I’d love your help, if you fit in the current category or know some great ways to show love using this love language won’t you please leave a comment with some advice?

 

To someone who doesn’t share this Love Language here are some ways to express love to people who value Words of Affirmation:

Use high value words

The words love, grateful, appreciate, proud, special, needed, best are some great words to focus on when speaking with someone who likes Words of Affirmation. Can you think of any others?

Compliment them

Pick something you really like about that person and tell them, it may not come easy to compliment, but will mean the world to them. Also, the more personal and specific you can get the better. Try to compliment them in an area that you know they work especially hard in. For example, if they volunteer a lot it’s likely that’s something they love and will be honored that you think enough to mention it.

Write it down

Words of Affirmation don’t have to be spoken words, they can also be written, whether it’s in a card, text, or a short note these words will be appreciated.

Reader Megan H says, “Words is not my love language but I speak words very well as words is one of my husbands love languages and also my daughters. Simple text each day to say you love them or are thinking of them are great. Also lovers of words like cards and simple notes too.”

As with all Love Languages there are several ways to show love in the way a specific person feels it. These are just a few ways to get you started. Do you have any advice on how to love (or how not to love) a person whose love language is Words of Affirmation?? Share in the comments below and if this is your love language be sure to share this post with others.

By Ceci

In searching for skin care items for Miss C, who has been diagnosed with eczema and small plaque parapsoriasis, I try to be very mindful of products that are naturally based. Because she has such sensitive skin I don’t want to put harmful chemicals or something that may irritate her even further.

I was approached by the founder of the company By Ceci, Cecelia Huddy to try out a few things from her natural body care product line. In asking for soothing and food scented items she provided some great test products.

Let me first say, I love how her focus is on making her products natural and not only selling to her customers but teaching them as well.

By Ceci products are all-natural:

  • scented using natural essential oils
  • colored with only natural herbs and botanicals such as turmeric, charcoal, indigo, and kelp
  • uses sustainable palm oil and is upfront with any products she uses.

When you go to the ByCeci website  you can tell Cecelia not only stands behind her products, but she wants customers to learn why she uses specific products and is completely upfront about what is in her product line.

 

 

Here are some of our thoughts:

I loved the smell of her lip balm {especially the Choco Mint} but admittedly had a problem trying to push up the tube for application.

The Hint of Vanilla Body Oil is amazing. It not only goes on smoothly but it dries clean and not sticky, and if you like the smell of vanilla you will love this! I’m loving this for keeping my arms moisturized this winter.

There are so many soaps to choose from and they smell great but look even cooler. We tried the Castile Soap for Miss C’s sensitive skin as it’s one of the more gentle cleansers. It’s made with olive oil (great for the skin) and is unscented. This soap has been AMAZING for C’s skin, it goes on super smooth and leaves her skin moisturized without making her itchy or rashy, it’s truly one of the very few soaps we can use on her highly sensitive skin. So glad we were able to try it out!

If you like to take comfort knowing what products are being used on your family’s skin and that those products are being made in an environment where the maker is focused on using quality product and ensuring the happiness of her clients, I’d highly recommend by Ceci products. Head to their website to check out their philosophies and products: byCeci.com

We received product and have chosen to review based on our positive experience. This is not a paid or sponsored post. Your opinions may vary.

Holding On to Grief

I’m the type of person who holds on to everything.

My brain always says:

“Just in case…”

“You never know…”

“Better safe than sorry…”

I didn’t grow up with much, maybe that’s why. Hold on to things you may need.

I also hold on to other things. On both sides of my family growing up I saw grudges. Hold on to grudges.

I also saw a lot of people come and go, family members, people that I was close to. Hold on to people. 

Not liking conflict and having big feelings (as I now know I’m an HSP) Hold on to feelings. Bottling up emotions, especially the hard ones were what I became good at. At least until it was too much to contain, ending in tears, and frustration, just to start filling up the bottle again.

While I’ve learned a lot about myself and learning how to express my emotions I often continue to carry my own burdens. Hold on to burdens. You may be thinking we do need to carry our burdens, that’s often what my head tells me, but we have a God who died to carry those burdens, we have a God who tells us to allow people close to us to help us walk through those hard times.

Last night I was reminded that doing that to myself, making myself bear the grief of losing my mom and others grief, is my own pride. I know it sounds weird to think that taking that upon myself is pride, but really thinking about it, I feel like I’m the only one who understands it, the only one who can fix it. In reality, by holding onto it I’m not resolving anything, just letting it sit there.

I often forget or intentionally hold on to things I should be giving to God, whether it’s my day or burdens/worries that I carry. Can you relate? This is something I will probably always struggle with, but I think acknowledging that it’s something I need help with and trying to make a change is a good step in the right direction. This time I need to choose to Hold on to God’s promises.

Is there anything you are holding on to? Is this something you are willing to give to God or let others help you shoulder???

How a Cleaning Schedule is Important for My Sanity

So you would think that after 2.5 years of doing this whole mommy thing that I would be a pro at all things domestic. Well do I ever have you fooled! Now don’t get me wrong I do know some pretty awesome tricks and tips to save time and avoid meltdowns, but there are a few sections of the domestic goddessness that I haven’t mastered that I would love to improve upon.

I’m so envious of the moms who have everything planned out, perhaps because before I became a mom myself I used to be so much more organized. Although there are a lot of things that have changed A.C. (after child); my body, (which sometimes I’d rather deny that it’s mine), becoming that late person that I always hated, and memorizing every little thing there’s one thing that I didn’t want to change and it’s being super duper organized.

Perhaps I gave up being so particular for my sanity, considering I had a newborn, packed up a whole townhouse, moved to a new state into an apartment and THEN a new house in only 3 months. So I’m not super mom and realized that it’s okay to put some things off if I can spend more time with my daughter. Oh how things have changed. These days, since Little Miss “A” is a little more self-sufficient I’m able to get more housework done and she even likes to help. (Must record that here in the blog so I can show her when she is a teen.) Instead I think that now it would give me more time to spend with “A” if I were more organized.

I clip coupons, keep a daily calendar of events (sometimes even with 3 calendars I still forget the time of play dates and nights out,) but what’s missing is a little more detailed organization.

Here are my list of things to work on to help improve, let’s say quality of life:

  • Start planning weekly meals (and if I’m good enough even coordinate sales/coupons to meals)
  • Create a “schedule” for “A” so she and I can get more out of her day and bring a little more structure in
  • Start throwing/donating things that are junking up my closets in hopes that my $2 sweater will sell after 5 months on craigslist.
  • Select certain days to clean certain things, oooh this one may be fun, I could do theming: Toilet Tuesdays, Washer Wednesdays, now if there was only a day of the week that started with “N” then I could have a nap day 🙂

Those are a few of my current goals, I’d love to start before baby #2 makes her debut. I would love any tips or websites devoted to a decent but not quite there organized momma. I think my Domestic Goddess Award is getting dusty…I may even have it revoked if I don’t do something STAT!

Gender Prediction Test for Pregnant Moms – Intelligender

Boy or Girl Gender

I’m totally one of those moms who is super-planner-woman. When it comes to finding out the sex of my babies I’m not one to wait until their birth to find out. I totally applaud those mommas and think it’s neat but SO not me. I need to know if I can buy girlie or boyish clothes, pick out a name, and make sure everything in general is set.

While our first sonogram technician was very clinical in letting us know our daughter was a girl we’re still very excited to find out the sex of this baby that will join us in Spring of ’10. In our talk about gender predicting using wives tales we’ve come across Intelligender. Maybe you’ve heard of it too.

This product is becoming increasingly popular and was recently featured in Parents magazine. Basically it’s an affordable at home urine test that allows you to not only find out the gender of your unborn baby but also find it out earlier than a 2nd trimester gender ultrasound in which is usually given around week 18 to week 20.

Intelligender allows you to take this test as early as 10 weeks. For those parents who are extremely excited to find out the gender and just can’t wait for the doctor’s appointment this is a fun option. While results are not 100% they do stack up at 82%-90% accurate. I have a few friends who have had positive results.

In my very brief research of this product (as I’m hoping Intelligender will send me a sample to test my results,) I have found a number of complaints in regards to the test not being right. I have found however that in many of these cases the women are either taking the test before 10 weeks and also waiting longer for the results than listed in the instructions. I’m sure that not following the test exactly would give you mixed results.

Although I can wait for my ultrasound, (which I’m ever so excited about and thinking it’s a boy,) it would be fun to test one of these out. Intelligender is sold in many retail drugstores. Check out http://intelligender.com/ if you’re interested in finding out more about this product.

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